March 25, 2020

Image of Inner Voice going crazy

​Still trying to make perfect decisions?


Then Whoa!

We are told by the experts (although we already know this) that we need to be brutally honest about ourselves and with ourselves -- even when painful and uncomfortable to do so. Most of us have learned, too, that being honest with our true feelings and built-in radar is often not the easiest path to take.  It can be far more tempting to avoid digging deep within ourselves and to not be still long enough so that we can truly feel and hear our inner voices - our guts  - our hearts.

Our busy lives, our overwhelming non-stop busyness in general and an all too fast-paced world often keeps us from doing from just being still often enough.  After a while, the chaos of day after day of this marathon pace eventually buries and camouflages what our hearts, our inner voices really already know.

But! (seems to always be a but around, right?!) -- even when we give our inner voice and hearts the chance to speak clearly to us, there is still NO perfect decision out there for us to find (dog-gone-it, right!?!). Every single decision will always have some "costs" attached along w/all its pluses and good parts. Every one.

I used to about kill myself trying to figure out "the" perfect decision - especially on the big stuff.  I eventually had to accept, however, that perfection in my decisions was never going to be found. How could there be?  It is not a perfect world (wow - how's that for an understatement today!). We are not perfect people. We do not have or live perfect lives and, therefore, we just cannot find or make perfect decisions! It really is that simple.

We can make solid, well thought out and properly researched decisions, but never a perfect one. So, let's not be one of those folks who stress and search and search AND search ad nauseam for those non-existent perfect decisions. It is a futile quest and self-imposes tons of stress on them not to mention all the time lost while living in such INdecision - and all because they keep searching and searching to find that unfindable perfect one!

Today's upside down world is requiring all of us to make many new and quick decisions in our lives - all too many that we never ever thought we'd be having to make.

Decision making has become even more challenging because we have no idea what our new "normal" is going to look like -- the old normal is changing all too fast.

​We can make solid, well thought out and properly researched decisions, but never a perfect one. So, let's not be one of those folks who stress and search and search AND search ad nauseam for those non-existent perfect decisions.

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But - (another but thrown at you) by golly, we can commit to making thoughtful, good decisions based on the trustworthy information we have in hand. And, yes, as our decisions come to life through our actions, they possibly might need tweaking or even redone altogether and that is okay. It doesn't necessarily mean they were wrong decisions originally - it just means we now have the benefit of new and different information that we didn't have before, but that needs to be put into our solution equations.

So bottom line - Gifts we can give ourselves over and over is:

    1. Refusing to allow ourselves to be trapped in time-consuming indecision madness;
    2. Making a solid commitment that our decisions will be made in a timely manner; and
    3. Ensuring that our new decision making skills are indeed in sync with our inner voices (that we've taken the time to "hear").

​With these gifts and a renewed commitment to improving our decision making habits, we will reap many benefits. We will also discover far more peace and much less second-guessing ourselves thanks to our never perfect but always thoughtfully made decisions.

This is Mama Muckster signing off for now - staying busy mucking lots of barn stalls and enjoying time with you to brainstorm some ideas for mucking out the clutter on our desks AND on our minds. Let's take care of ourselves, be at peace and be grateful in spite of any chaos around us. 

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About the author 

Nancy Byerly Jones

Nancy Byerly Jones and her husband reside on their mountainside ranch (“Little Hee Haw Farm”) with an energetic “family” of horses, donkeys (large and miniature), dogs and cats. Their favorite pastime is sharing the joy and fun of their animals and ranch life with their family, friends and clients.

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