​(Much Less Hear Us!)

Are you ever frustrated by folks who are very obviously NOT listening to what you are trying to share?  We all know the frustration of someone looking repeatedly at their phones or other devices while we are talking with them (see #$Q%_#*@ – ​Put Your Dang Phone Down ).  That never stops being annoying and then some.  

​But in this post, I am directing my full annoyance ? toward those people:

  1. 1
    ​​Who are obviously distracted due to multi-tasking when you are talking to them. This means the quality of their so-called listening to (make that hearing) what you are trying to share is at best being greatly diluted if not altogether missed; or
  2. 2
    ​Those who all too obviously act impatient while you are talking because they have more to say (whether its important to the conversation or not!) They just want to keep getting their 2 cents worth in and your talking gets in the way of allowing them to dominate the conversation.

At the risk of not sounding professional or more eloquent, it is just yukky to be on the receiving end of a poor listener when we are trying to share something with them. It really gets my goat doggoneit!  I'd rather they just tell me it's not a good time to talk rather than leave me feeling totally unheard - (regardless of the importance or not of the subject matter) -- just let folks know if your ears are effectively turned off - Please!

Image of quote by Emerson

​Soooo - solution for this? Well, I can't make others change, but I can work on my ways of dealing with this kind of situation for the future such as:

  • ​Saying to them - "Hey, obviously I am catching you at a busy time. When is a better time for us to talk?"
  • ​By not saying anything and just ending the discussion for now.
  • ​By avoiding --- whenever you can--- those folks you know from experience who always want to dominate conversations, to interrupt others and to otherwise be totally disrespectful and annoying.

​In closing and as we all adjust to our ever-changing normal's  -- and most of us while isolated at home -- what a great opportunity to hone our communication skills with our families — including the quality of how we listen to others.  Let me know your tips for handling bad listeners gracefully, but successfully - I need all I can get!

About the author 

Nancy Byerly Jones

Nancy Byerly Jones and her husband reside on their mountainside ranch (“Little Hee Haw Farm”) with an energetic “family” of horses, donkeys (large and miniature), dogs and cats. Their favorite pastime is sharing the joy and fun of their animals and ranch life with their family, friends and clients.

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